There are many lessons we should learn throughout our lives to enhance our life experience. Unfortunately, reading about a life lesson doesn’t not mean that you can understand it. Many events have to happen in the right order to allow us understand the lesson. Let’s take a very simple example to see the events that lead up to an understanding of a lesson. Suppose you are playing tennis and have been struggling to hit your backhand. You have a habit of stabbing at the ball. You don’t understand why you can’t hit a backhand properly. You want to hit the backhand better. So, you look to see what you are doing when you hit your backhand. Your friend hits the ball to your backhand and you continue to stab at the ball. He tells you, “hit the ball don’t stab at it!” You don’t understand what he’s talking about. Then he hits to your forehand and you swing a perfect return. Suddenly, you realize that you are not swinging at the ball when you hit your backhand. The stabbing motion doesn’t give you a consistent hitting motion. So, you try swinging the backhand the same way as your forehand. You hit the ball into the net, over the fence, and off the court, but you notice that it feels good to swing at the ball. Your timing with the swing is off but you feel the power and consistency of swinging it. You continue to swing your backhand and after a few days, you can consistently hit the ball into the court.

Let’s look at the events necessary to learn this backhand lesson:

• you see that your backhand is inconsistent and want to improve
• you watch to see what you are doing with the backhand
• Your forehand hit shows you the proper way to hit the ball
• you realize the problem, that’s the Aha! moment
• you test and try to change the backhand swing
• you persist even though you were hitting the ball all over the place
• you finally achieve it

If certain key events didn’t happen, you most likely wouldn’t have learned the lesson. For example, if you didn’t care or didn’t know that your backhand is inconsistent, if you didn’t realize that you aren’t swinging your backhand, or if you didn’t continue to practice hitting your backhand, there’s a good chance that you may not go through the process needed to learn the lesson.

This is why life lessons can be difficult to grasp or understand. Anything can interrupt a key step in the process. When it gets interrupted, we don’t learn the lesson. We miss the opportunity to realize something new and possibly life changing. Of course, the opportunity could reveal itself many time throughout our lives, but we may unknowingly let it slip by each time. Now that we know there is a process, we can be keep it in mind as we come across any life lesson. Doesn’t it seem troublesome to go through all this trouble just to learn some lesson? We can go through life doing the same routine, but wouldn’t it be much better to have insights that help us understand ourselves and our world better?

Ever been stuck with a problem you can’t seem to solve? You’ve been trying your best, but you still can’t make heads or tails of it. So, you decide to take a break. As you walk into the kitchen, you see the coffee dripping into the pot and suddenly, the solution hits you in the head! It is so obvious! You can’t understand why you didn’t see it before. That is the spark or moment that bridged the gap between being clueless to clear understanding. That is an “Aha!” moment.

This moment of clarity is like having a flash of light giving us a glimpse of the layout in pitch black room as we try to navigate around all the fixtures safely. In just one glimpse, all our uncertainties and worry about maneuvering through the room is lifted, and we have a good sense of the layout and how to reach our destination. These Aha! moments may help us with our small problems or it may reveal something that changes our lives forever.

I had intended to develop this site for many years. However, writing about something meaningful and life changing isn’t easy. Life lessons takes time to brew before it is understood.

I worked as a web application developer and project manager. I have helped companies share information and conduct business on the web. It was about time I use these skills to help myself and to develop a site to share my interests.

As a developer, I worked long hours, and ate lots of fast food and junk food. As a result, I was getting minor problems like headaches, back pains, knee pains, overweight, etc. I felt unwell and decided to do something about it. I spent my spare time learning to take care of my body, changing my diet, and changing my habits to improve my health. After a year, I was feeling like I was in my twenties again. I started writing about my experiences and lessons I have learned, but something didn’t feel right. Somehow, I knew that writing about health was not my purpose. But what was? I didn’t know.

By chance, a friend introduced my wife and I to chi gong, a slow moving meditative practice to heal the body. I practiced chi gong an hour each day for a year, and felt a some improvement. More importantly, I saw how our mind influence our body and our view of life. We spend years studying to get a job, traveling to see the world, and struggling to live our lives; but, we neglect the one thing that influence every aspect of our lives.

This is the mother of all “can of worms” to open because it will challenge and explore every aspect of our lives. Not everyone is up to this task, but if you are, then let’s get elbow deep in “worms”!